How can a man realize that a woman likes him and distinguish between empty flirting and falling in love?

psychoanalyst, medical psychologist, forensic expert psychologist

“The language of women in flirtation is always polysemantic and indirect. In contrast to assertive, sometimes overly open male. In the structure of intimate-personal relationships, it is assumed that he should attack, and she – to defend. However, this is not always the case.

Flirting and the woman

A woman’s subjectivity becomes limited if no one attacks her sexually. Therefore, she resorts to various linguistic and semantic means in which sexuality is embedded in the context.

Red dresses, shoes, lipstick, nail polish all arouse the attention of men. Gesticulation also begins to carry a certain connotation. A woman can put her foot on her leg, move closer, touch her hair, touch the hands of the chosen one.

Sexually colored jokes and homonyms such as “muffin” and “omelet” also appear in speech. However, even in these cases, not all men begin to react.

Nonverbal signs of falling in love

Falling in love with a woman has a different character than flirting. In such a game, girls try to attract the attention of a man so that he begins to attack her. With sincere feelings, everything is much more complicated. Why? They begin to manifest unconsciously. For this reason, they constantly have to be restrained in order not to make a mistake.

For this reason, lovers behave very awkwardly, like children. In the simplest and most mundane gestures, shyness, insecurity are manifested.

This becomes noticeable when a girl comes in her best form to the simplest meeting (which can be attended by the one she loves). Some even begin to violate boundaries drastically. Others, on the contrary – are very afraid to cross them, keeping to the side and not getting involved in the communication.

In fact, in love, flirting is distorted, becoming less naive and more sincere.

Gestures that men do not like

We are talking about gestures that are characteristic more for men than for women. Representatives of the stronger sex are strained by assertive and overt sexuality.

This includes very loud female laughter. He is very frightening and embarrassing. At this point, guys begin to feel like children in the company of a mother and her friends.

It is also worth forgetting about too vulgar jokes. They are quite acceptable for the stronger half of humanity. In general, everything that is associated with the manifestation of male sexuality, it is better to forget.

What do men like?

The body of a woman for a man is an object of desire, often fetishized. The main zones of attraction of attention: legs, breasts and buttocks.

At the same time, for each member of the stronger sex it can be different objects. And not necessarily all at once. When a woman finds out what it is in her favorite favorite, she can emphasize his attention to them. Thereby arousing his interest and sexual desire. How can you use different “strategic” parts of the body?

Legs

You can put your foot on your foot. Remember how Sharon Stone did it in the cult movie “Basic Instinct”? If your feet are under the table and not visible, you can lightly touch the man with them. By the way, it is worth knowing that male attention is attracted by the clatter of heels. This sound also causes sexual arousal.

Breast

Women’s breasts for centuries are an object of desire and fetish. To attract attention to her, it is enough to have a décolletage and some jewelry that will attract attention with its shine. The area will be accentuated. It is only important not to go overboard with the depth of the neckline.

Buttocks

The buttocks are also a classic object of desire. Here the usual gesticulation can not do. It is necessary that a man can see the silhouette of the hips. To do this, you need to create special situations. For example, you can bend over, tying shoelaces. Alternatively – try to always be a little ahead of your chosen one.

What else gives away her interest?

practicing psychologist, writer, ideologist of the project “Families of the country”.

“We fall in love not with the man himself, but with his condition next to him.
A woman in love is definitely given away by her eyes. When they are burning, she has feelings for her partner. At the same time, girls begin to pay more attention to themselves. Because these positive emotions bring out the potential in them. They start to recognize themselves more.”

Smile

Most women unconsciously open their lips when they want to interest a man. Smiling allows us to create a warm and appealing image. After all, our facial expression helps us make the right impression.

Open wrists

Everyone knows that crossed arms and legs signal a closed mind and unwillingness to communicate. A woman in love wants to be looked at and talked to. The opposite sign is the demonstration of wrists. She begins to gesticulate more often, revealing this part of the body. For example, correcting jewelry. If the girl shows this part of the hand, then she is interested and ready for closer communication.

Touching

Random touches also talk about interest. At the same time, for a man, such a manifestation can look a little repulsive. They are, after all, by nature conquerors. They are primarily interested in observing and revealing a woman. But you can touch your body. For example, the waist. Such tactile interaction makes it clear to the chosen one that she cares about him. Of course, these signals are read by the opposite sex as that the girl is ready to flirt. Remember, in everything you need to know the measure, so as not to look vulgar.

Copying

A girl in love unconsciously begins to copy the man, his gestures, behavior, manner of conversation. By the way, the guys themselves do not always notice it.

Hair

Often movie directors pay attention to this signal. The girl twists a strand on her finger, then throws back her head, so that her hair flutters. It really works. Men are attracted to the movement itself. Plus, they carry a nice feminine perfume scent. So feel free to tuck them behind your ear and fix your hair.

Voice

Women have a high voice, and men – low. The difference in timbre awakens guys on an unconscious level to “protect” their partner. A surprising fact is that when a person feels sympathy, his voice automatically changes. This attracts both some and others.

Lip biting

One of the most famous female gestures during communication, which can have a continuation. If you ask a man about the signals that attract his attention, many will point to this one. Undoubtedly, biting your lips correctly is a great art. It needs to be learned and practiced. If it doesn’t work, you can just touch your lips with your fingers. After all, it is important that it does not look vulgar.

Naked parts of the body

Immediately note that this is not about an ultra-short skirt or deep cleavage. Every coquette knows that you need to open such areas of the body as wrists, collarbones, shoulders and back. They stand out from the crowd, create an attractive image and excite the thoughts of men. The important point is that you should not expose everything at once.

Look

Flirty look – the main weapon of women. It is the eyes speak of interest. Eye contact – one of the sincere unconscious signals of love. Keep in mind that a long look directly into the eyes can sometimes be considered as hostile or aggressive behavior.

What are men interested in besides gestures?

Men are interested in the woman herself: her manner of communication, personality, ability to maintain a conversation on different topics. They like to be listened to. It’s important. If you notice a couple in a restaurant that listens attentively to each other, slightly giving the body forward, it means that their relationship is just beginning.

Guys love it when a woman laughs at their jokes. Everyone knows that humor is a sign of high intelligence. And, if you manage to make your chosen one laugh, your chances of a strong union will increase. Do not do it intentionally. They sense falseness.