He lost 25 kg, gave up animal food and alcohol

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“Change or die. I guess that’s how you can characterize what happened to me 3.5 years ago, when my whole life turned upside down, forcing me to completely change everything: lose 25 kg of weight, get away from animal food and alcohol, change my activities, become a different person. But I’ll tell you all about it in order.

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Every evening was not without beer or wine

At school he was actively engaged in sports, athletics, and overweight was out of the question. Skinny, wiry, dry. Everything started to change when business came into my life. In 2012, my future partner and I started a project to sell paintings, posters, portraits. We started from scratch, without investments, loans and experience. Not everything went smoothly, but we reached a good level and worked with large companies.

It took a few years, a lot of nerves and worries. Compensated for it with food and alcohol. At first it was light drinks like beer and wine. Then stronger ones.

Weight began to gain actively: from 65 kg I got fat to 80-85 kg. I gradually went from size S to unthinkable XL. As I remember, horror creeps in.

In an attempt to calm my nerves I started traveling more. Every trip was accompanied by gluttony and plenty of alcohol. Calls, texts, complications. Everything had to be solved even there, far outside the homeland. And what’s an evening without beer or wine?

My wife’s passing was the final point

90 kilos became the norm for me. But weight is not the main thing. The main thing is that all this time I hated myself and did not want to live. Intoxication gave me a state of joy at least for 15 minutes.

Even then it was clear to me that it was time to change something, but I was afraid of change and the fact that I would be lost, lost, would not earn a living. So I stayed in business, which did not bring me any joy at all.

In my heart I dreamed of traveling, working remotely and looking at the world, being a free man, not depending on anything and no one. To set up a business, I attracted investments after listening to smart business coaches. That was the last straw.

Tension increased, I had to pay everyone, and I had even less money. And then the clinking of bottles became a constant, daily ritual in my house. I couldn’t sleep at night, waking up in a panic from not understanding how to solve money problems. Rents, paychecks, bills. The only way I could sleep was with a drink. But that was only for a couple hours. And then horror and unwillingness to get up in the morning and do anything at all.

I couldn’t stand myself and my life so much that even when I was on an airplane going to Seychelles on my honeymoon, I hoped that it would fall somewhere along the way. And all this torment would just end.

The peak was the fall of 2019 to the spring of 2020. Within six months, my whole life fell apart. Then I drank every day, I already weighed 95 kg. Almost instantaneously, my business went down in the summer, leaving me without means of subsistence. My wife left me. And I just didn’t understand how and why to live on. And I wasn’t even 30 years old yet…..

There’s no advice here on how to stop drinking. But about alcohol, as about any other habit, I know one thing:

When you want to live, when life is precious to you, when you value and love yourself, you will never pour a drop of poison into yourself.

We all realize that we are killing ourselves with cigarettes, alcohol, even coffee. Everyone feels it. And we only do it consciously because there is nothing more precious than that one second of joy. That’s how I quit drinking. One day, after I broke up with my wife, I just felt I couldn’t take it anymore, that’s all. Since then I haven’t touched alcohol and I don’t see any point in it.

At the same time in my family on the male line all alcoholics. All died from the consequences of alcohol.

You don’t know happiness without suffering

It’s the same story with weight. Hitting rock bottom in my own life made me wake up and sober up. I realized that I will not go back to the old, but I don’t know how else. And the search began. I was drawn to spirituality.

I started practicing, nailing, meditating, chanting mantras. Actually, the point is not in the methods themselves, they will not solve the problems, but my condition changed, the weight began to go away. Without diets, sports and self abuse.

I have a special love affair with nails, by the way. My introduction to the Sadhu board was 3.5 years ago. The metal sticking out of a wooden board, which, as it seemed to me, was trying to mercilessly pierce my feet, caught up with me quite unexpectedly in the Stolby reserve in the Krasnoyarsk region.

The sharp ends of real nails went into my feet, tearing with pain. My body twisted, my breath came out. For only 30 seconds I managed to stand on those little fear killers. But that was the beginning of my life change.

You can get a thrill out of suffering and pain when you realize what it’s for and what it leads to. Not by forcing yourself, but by overcoming, by discovering newer and newer facets of your own will. The transformation that comes along with the willingness to step into fears is enormous.

Couldn’t carry that fat on my body anymore

Naturally, one day I walked away from meat. I just stopped craving it, that’s all. It helped to lose the extra pounds, but as I said above, weight is about status. If you don’t set yourself up for change, you can’t lose weight.

I remember losing 10 or 15 kg within a month. I didn’t have a goal to lose weight, but I had an inner intention to change. 95 kg at first changed to 85 kg, and then to 76 kg.

I was satisfied with this weight, but something was wrong. The further I went in practice, the more I wanted light food. I gave up not only meat, but also other animal products. Basically, I switched to a vegan diet, with a high predominance of greens, fruits and vegetables. This wasn’t a goal either, but happened on its own, naturally.

There is no magic pill

A month ago I returned from Tibet, where I lost another 5 kg. But my body did everything to get back to “normal”. Now I weigh 69-70 kg again, and this is a comfortable figure for me.

I lost 25 kg in 1.5 years or so. Again, without having a goal, without making efforts, without doing sports at all! And not dieting. What I was doing was loving myself, loving my life and creating my own meaning of this very life. And all these practices have become my profession.

It is important to find for yourself what you want to live for. It’s something inside you that makes you excited. Not money, not cars and apartments. But something that makes you happy without the involvement of other people.

Then you’ll start to change in leaps and bounds. Most often this happens, as in my case, through a complete bottom, loss of meaning of life and disappointment. But I consider that period to be the best of my life. I woke up and freed myself, becoming more beautiful, younger and healthier every day.

Psychologist’s opinion

psychologist, founder of the School of Game Practice

“First of all, with the help of meditative practices, the author was able to be alone with his thoughts and listen to his body.”

Indeed, from a psychosomatic perspective, being overweight can be a response to low self-esteem, guilt, a need for protection and a deficit of positive emotions.

Therefore, when you find a purpose for yourself, for which you want to live and develop, the body more quickly returns to a comfortable state for it. There is no magic here: positive emotions and restful sleep help the production of hormones and normalize the work of all organs.

Also, many practices help to get rid of negative beliefs like “I can’t do it”, “It’s hard”, “You can lose weight only with the help of sports and dieting”. When searching for your purpose and mission, the human psyche sets for itself points A and B. And when the goal is defined and clearly described, it is much easier to achieve it.

Opinion of a nutritionist

Doctor of nutritionist, gastroenterologist, candidate of medical sciences, clinical pharmacologist

“At a young age, the metabolism is more active, which contributes to the rapid breakdown and utilization of food. The body is better able to process calories and toxins.”

Before the age of 30, the body’s cells are usually more capable of regeneration, allowing them to recover more quickly from exposure to harmful substances. Younger people are often more physically active, which also promotes better metabolism and digestion.

In addition, let’s not forget the accumulation effect. The longer we consume toxins, the higher the toxic load on the body.

After the age of 30, metabolism becomes less efficient, cells lose their regenerative capacity, and the body becomes more sensitive to the effects of harmful substances. A diet rich in fatty and high-calorie foods, as well as excessive alcohol consumption, begins to have a more noticeable impact on health, increasing the risk of various diseases, including cardiovascular and metabolic problems.

In the case of the hero, it was not his lifestyle that became critical, but his psycho-emotional state. Constant stress brought him to the point he was trying to get out of. An unstable nervous system is the sickest place in many people who live in megacities, work a lot. Stress gives imbalance to the whole organism.

But the worst thing is that it is impossible to avoid stress. We can only react to it correctly, look for a point of peace within ourselves.