A psychologist named 8 things you should not tell about yourself. You could hurt yourself

Communication with people is a powerful way of energy exchange. During communication a person develops, seeks friends and learns about the world. It would seem that for quality relationships it is necessary to be open, but experts say that there are things about which it is better to keep quiet.

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Positive emotions often overwhelm us over the edge. Happy events literally tear a person from the inside and encourage him to immediately share the good news (and not always “in confidence”). Joy, as well as negativity, is always difficult to keep in check. But sometimes doing so is strategic. When and why?

What should you keep quiet about, or at least not talk about for a while?

1. “Napoleonic” plans

During planning, a person has the brightest and most pleasant emotions. No wonder that they want to share them with the world. However, it can be dangerous to talk about your goals, plans and dreams before they are realized. Why?

It’s all about the brain. When we talk about our plans out loud, it reads it as a completed process. The result is that the central nervous system will be less invested in achieving the goal. The motivation will be gone.

In addition, when you share positive energy with the world, its supply will naturally diminish. This will also negatively affect the result.

Another point is the possibility of suffering from envious people, whose comments can plant doubts and insecurities. This will stall progress.

2. Major acquisitions

Buying an apartment, car or other types of property can cause envy among others, giving rise to speculation and rumors. The Russian mentality is not in the habit of rejoicing in the successes of others. This will be considered as bragging, which can damage a person’s reputation.

3. Income

It is not customary in society to ask questions about a person’s income, level of earnings and savings, but violation of personal boundaries in this regard is not uncommon. People are often unceremoniously interested in this information. Here you should either firmly hold your ground and keep silent, or use vague wording. Specific figures should not be voiced. At least to avoid future attempts to borrow from you.

4. Illnesses

By publicizing health problems, you can harm not only yourself, but also those around you. How? First, no one is interested in someone else’s symptoms and test results. Why waste someone else’s time and energy? Secondly, your experience can serve as a bad example. Instead of going to a specialist, a person will resort to the described scheme and damage his health.

5. Love or budding relationships

The same scheme works here as with goals. Telling about happy moments of personal life, a person wastes energy. It is better to direct it to the beloved.

6. Good deeds or charity

Telling about the good deeds done, a person is looking for approval, fame and praise. However, this has nothing to do with goodness. Charity does not involve publicity. In addition, it can be perceived by others as narcissism.

7. Family conflicts

Quarrels happen in every family. It is normal and even useful. During conflicts, negative energy is released and deliverance takes place. If you tell someone in detail about these quarrels, you only return some part of this negativity.

The last point – this is no longer “about yourself”, although sometimes other people’s secrets are passed off as their own, but that’s another story… In any case, it is impossible not to mention the point below.

8. Other people’s secrets

The secrets of other people, in which you have been initiated, should remain secret. This is an unspoken rule that cannot be broken if you don’t want to be distrusted. This also includes spreading gossip. Discussing someone else’s life is considered self-assertion at the expense of humiliating another person, which is not at all beautiful to you.