Psychologists have named 6 situations in which you should think only about yourself

The ability to think about oneself and satisfy one’s needs indicates the presence of an adult psychological position and personal boundaries. Such people experience much less stress in communication, are able to resist manipulators and achieve high results in what they are interested in.

PhD in Philosophy, master of neurolinguistic programming, Gestalt therapist

Today let’s consider everyday situations not related to professional responsibility, in which you should think about your personal comfort first of all.

When it comes to your safety

It is pointless to sacrifice your health for someone or something. Recognition and praise will be little consolation if something happens to you.

When it comes to your relationships

Sacrificial people tend to attract tyrants into their lives. So create your own rules that you are comfortable living in and boldly broadcast this to your other half. Know that both men and women appreciate partners who understand what they want. And sacrifice is only to the liking of manipulators – for them it is another tool to control you.

When it comes to your work

Realizing what you truly enjoy doing helps you maximize your talents and fulfillment. Do this and ignore the words and actions of those around you trying to stop you. Remember Thomas Edison, Steve Jobs and other people whose inventions were not immediately recognized by society. But the result of their labor proved to be beyond all praise.

When it comes to your leisure time

If you don’t have enough vitality, stop giving it away. Take a rest and build up your strength. Only when you feel resourceful can you share it with others.

When it comes to your finances

The right strategy for spending and distribution of funds looks like this: first you cover your needs (spending on business, professional development), and only then think about others.

Why saving money on yourself can be dangerous, read in the material at the link.

When it comes to your emotions and feelings

These are things that belong only to you and, apart from you, no one will take care of them. If you are experiencing negative feelings from dealing with certain people, from toxic relationships, from being in a job you don’t like, you can safely close those gestalts. No one will appreciate your sacrifice anyway, because these people usually don’t care how you feel, and someone else will easily take your place.

If you impose a sense of guilt or responsibility for the lives of others, then most likely it comes from people who are not ready to take responsibility themselves. And this is already, as we know, their problem.

There are quite a few situations in which it is right and helpful to be a healthy egoist. That is, to think of yourself first. Strange as it may seem, this will benefit not only you, but also those around you.