10 märki, et teil ei ole tugevad sisemised toed ja näpunäiteid, kuidas neid tugevdada

10 märki, et teil ei ole tugevad sisemised toed ja näpunäiteid, kuidas neid tugevdada

To become stronger and happier.

Physically, a person is supported by a skeleton. The psyche is organized on the same principle – it must have a core. Alas, often it is not …

Catherine Tur

doctor, psychosomatologist, neuropsychologist, specialist in working with anxiety

“Internal support is the ability of a person to remain invulnerable and intact in stressful situations. It is about a certain set of skills, characteristics and abilities. They are used to reduce the impact of the stressor. If the supports are strong, external circumstances are unable to cause severe damage.

Why might they not be?

The most important thing here is for a person to be molded in a safe emotional environment from early childhood. What does this mean? The child must know that he can make a mistake and he will not be scolded for it. He has the confidence that there are two strong parents behind him. He has no doubt that mom and dad are loving, accepting and will always protect him.

Parents are obliged to create a favorable emotional environment for their child. It’s their duty. What should be done?

1. Eliminate yelling as a form of communication. In a home where there is a child, it should not be. It always breaks the inner support.
2. Eliminate corporal punishment.
3. Respect the personal boundaries of all family members.
4. Engage in their own education and development to be able to set a positive example.
5. Do not quarrel in front of the child. The home should be safe.

If the supports are strong

Such a person has a positive way of thinking. He knows that he is loved and valued. Mistakes do not scare him, because there is no fear of losing someone’s favor. Such a person knows that love doesn’t have to be earned.

Five more signs:

• empathically reads others without damaging himself;
• has a strong inner integrity;
• easy to communicate, has a good tongue;
• has no problem solving complex problems;
• self-sufficient.

If there are no supports

What character traits and features of behavior indicate that everything is not smooth in this direction? A person without internal supports has the following signs:

1. Increased susceptibility.
2. Vulnerability. He is destroyed by any criticism.
3. The development of psychosomatic diseases.
4. Low stress resistance.
5. A lack of self-acceptance.
6. Violation of self-value.
7. Lack of understanding of his strong qualities.
8. Lack of talents.
9. Increased anxiety.
10. Low stress tolerance.

All of these significantly reduce the quality of life.

How to find your footing

Alas, most people have had negative childhood experiences. But an adult has the potential to heal themselves. How?

• Develop emotional intelligence.
• Increase self-esteem.
• Work with anxiety.
• Practice meditation.
• See a psychologist.

What will restoring inner strength do? It will definitely improve the quality of life. If you feel that you can’t find it on your own, it’s worth seeking help from a psychologist.