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“Ideally, the relationship between a man and a woman assumes equality, but in practice such a situation is rather a happy exception to the rule. Very often one of the partners takes the position of a parent (“mommy” or “daddy”), as if deciding to bring up the other half”.

We don’t always see reality as it is, refusing the obvious facts, so let’s check if you are not accidentally a parent to your chosen one. Below are five signs of a dangerous substitute for a healthy relationship. So how does a female mommy behave?

1- She is constantly controlling him

A woman’s concern and total control towards her partner are two different things. It’s one thing when you’re busy cooking dinner and making sure your man’s shirts are clean, and quite another when you start commanding what jacket he should wear to work. You check whether the chosen one has set the alarm clock and finished porridge in the morning. This behavior is more like maternal and has nothing to do with adequate care.

Agree that partly you take such a position, rather, out of your own convenience: to constantly keep a hand on the pulse and fully control the chosen one.

2. she rules all financial flows

There is nothing terrible in the fact that a woman earns more than her partner. Especially if the latter is not embarrassed by this situation. However, if you seek to completely dominate in all financial matters and deprive your man of the right to vote, this indicates an unhealthy relationship.

This position indicates that you either do not trust the other half, or so strongly seek to take the position of “mommy” that you are ready to give your partner money to buy a pie in the canteen. In both cases we are talking about an inadequate relationship.

3. She classifies her man as a child.

Literally. If a woman has children, she tells others phrases like, “I fed them” or “I sent them for a walk.” It seems, well, what could be dangerous in using such speech patterns?

Actually, it can. For example, the fact that over time you really stop perceiving your chosen one as a man. And he will also already see you not attractive and seductive woman, and a real “mommy”.

All this first happens at an unconscious level in both partners, and only then it becomes clear why you stopped attracting each other sexually. As you know, our body always resists the so-called incest, even if your loved one calls you “mommy” as a joke.

4. She does not trust her partner

No matter what a man does, everything is wrong. Improperly made the bed, poorly heated dinner and badly screwed the cap on the toothpaste. One reminder and constant criticism you are not limited to, circling the house in search of new “joints”.

This behavior speaks for itself. You are sure that the favorite is not able to cope with the simplest case, so you constantly wail: “Oh, yes, he can not do anything himself.” If you see yourself in this behavior, then everything is right – you have become a “mommy”.

5. She takes all the responsibility

And this is a very sad one. You take responsibility for everything, while your beloved is resting on the couch. And okay, if the current situation can be justified by the fact that you yourself decided to be a leader and commander in a skirt, but it happens and so that just have to take things on their fragile shoulders because of the fact that there is no one else to rely on.

By the way, before you accuse a man of all the sins, think … Did you not contribute to this situation? Perhaps unconsciously. If you constantly express mistrust of the partner and take the hammer out of his hands, there is a risk of spoiling your beloved and reap the fruits of their own actions.