How to get cooler: 10 neurocoaching tips to help you make a complete personal upgrade

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“Every person wants to become the best version of themselves. To unlock their potential, to develop their strengths, to get rid of their shortcomings, to increase their self-esteem. There is no end point in this process – you can always strive for more. But where to start and how to succeed?”.

Working on yourself includes a variety of aspects: from setting inspiring goals to forming useful habits. It also includes the processes of learning and accepting oneself, overcoming limiting beliefs, and finding motivation for growth.

A person has a huge potential for self-improvement. By taking small steps every day, you are getting closer to a better version of yourself. The key is to keep moving forward, no matter what happens.

1. Work on your mindset

Thinking determines our lives in many ways. If you think positively and believe in yourself, you will be able to achieve your ultimate goal. You don’t have to go to a psychologist or a coach. Something you may well do yourself every day. For example, start your morning with positive affirmations: “I am full of energy and enthusiasm, I know how to become a better person” or “I can achieve success”, “My brain and my body are healthy and working great”, etc.

It is very important to notice negative thoughts and change them to positive thoughts. For example, the thought “I can never do this” can be changed to “I can do this if I take action”.

You can always stop socializing with people who have been unpleasant to you and have ever had a negative influence on you. This takes away your strength and energy and robs you of your optimistic attitude.

Listen to podcasts, read books on the topic of developing a positive mindset while driving to work or taking a walk. Surround yourself with images, phrases, objects that remind you of positive ways of thinking. This helps keep you moving forward. What you look at becomes part of your life.

Be willing to change your habits and surroundings if you need to.

2. Set goals for yourself

They give direction and meaning to our actions. Try to set ambitious yet realistic goals that will motivate and inspire you every day. To effectively work towards achieving them, it is important to do the following things.

1. Write down all of your goals. This will help focus and formalize intentions. Reread the notes regularly so that the goals are not forgotten.

2. Set SMART goals – specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound. For example: “I will earn 100,000 rubles a month by the end of the year” or “In three months, I will become a person who takes care of his health, does sports, goes to the gym three times a week.”

3. Break big goals into smaller goals. Focus on accomplishing just those tasks rather than the whole goal at once. This way you’ll be able to take the first step easily.

4. Make an action plan to accomplish the goal and stick to it. Revise this list as needed and realistically assess your strengths. Be prepared to make some changes.

5. Find like-minded people and get support from others in real life or on social media. This increases motivation.

6. Visualize yourself achieving a goal. Be ready to fulfill it. Visualize the feelings of achieving it. This will help with focus.

3. Take care of your health

A healthy lifestyle will help you feel more energized, think more clearly, and achieve your goals. You don’t have to go vegan or go to the gym. It’s enough to follow simple rules every day.

1. Create a balanced diet. Control your eating habits. Eat more vegetables, fruits, whole grains. Limit fast food, sweets and sodas.

2. Eat breakfast. This will energize you for the day and help control your appetite. Drink at least two liters of pure water a day. You can add lemon, herbs.

3. Engage in sports that are available to you. It can be brisk walking, cycling, swimming.

4. Move around for at least 30 minutes a day. Try to walk as much as possible instead of taking transportation. Take the stairs instead of the elevator/escalator.

5. Get at least 7-8 hours of sleep. Keep a routine – go to bed and wake up at about the same time.

6. Relieve stress with meditation, do yoga, take relaxing baths.

4. Don’t be ashamed of your mistakes

View them as valuable experiences and opportunities for growth. Analyze your blunders and learn from them so that you don’t repeat them again. Don’t berate yourself too much for your failures. Take them calmly as an opportunity for development.

Analyze what exactly went wrong. What was your mistake? What could have been done differently? What could be the first step in correcting it? Think about what conclusions you should draw so that you don’t repeat similar situations in the future?

Make a concrete plan. What exactly will you do differently in similar cases?

Discuss your mistakes with a psychologist, coach or more experienced colleague. Often an outside perspective or the right questions can help you see new solutions.

Don’t dwell on failures; instead, enthusiastically put lessons learned into practice. Be forgiving of other people’s blunders. This will help adjust your own attitude.

5. Surround yourself with positive and ambitious people

This will motivate you to improve yourself. Spend less time with those who depress you. Here are some guidelines to help you create a positive environment.

1. Attend themed events where you can meet interesting people. For example, conferences, trainings, business breakfasts.

2. Join communities of interest – clubs, sports sections in social networks. There you will meet like-minded people and see new opportunities.

3. At work, communicate more with colleagues who inspire you. Share ideas, your values and joint projects.

4. On social media, subscribe to the accounts of motivating people. Keep in touch with them.

5. Limit time with people who complain and focus on negativity.

6. Provide support to those who need it. Positivity and optimism are contagious.

7. Connect regularly with people who are mentors and experts in their field.

6. Believe in yourself

Remember that every person is capable of many things. Do not doubt your strengths and new opportunities. Go boldly towards your goals. Here are some tips that will help to strengthen the belief in yourself.

1. Start each day with positive affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and repeat, “I am confident. I will succeed.”

2. Recall situations from the past when you were able to overcome difficulties. This is proof of your strength.

3. Focus on your accomplishments and talents, not your shortcomings. Increase your self-esteem. This will make you feel better about yourself.

4. Accept compliments and praise rather than brushing them off. Appreciate positive feedback.

5. Get rid of self-criticism and limiting attitudes. You deserve to be confident in yourself.

7. Learn to accept

This is an important skill for personal growth. When we accept ourselves and life circumstances, it makes us happier. What aspects are important to accept?

1. Your past. It cannot be changed. Accept it with love. This will help you let go of resentments. Don’t judge yourself harshly for the missteps you have had in your life.

2. The Present. Don’t waste energy resisting reality. Learn to accept life as it is now and act wisely.

3- Uncertainty of the future. You can only control your actions. The future is unknown, accept this fact and learn to live with it.

4. Compliments. Do not dismiss praise, accept it with gratitude. If people say it to you, it means that you deserve it.

5. Criticism. Listen to comments constructively, do not take offense. Make the most of criticism.

6. Help. Don’t hesitate to ask for support. And when you are helped, accept it with dignity.

Acceptance makes us wiser and freer. It is the way to become the best version of ourselves and live in harmony with the world and ourselves.

8. Start getting to know the real you

Getting to know yourself is a lifelong journey. It is important to regularly ask yourself questions and reflect on your values, beliefs and behaviors. The following tools will help you in the process of getting to know yourself.

1. Self Development Diary. Write down all your thoughts, feelings, and observations about yourself. Reread old entries – you will see your personal growth.

2. Practice meditation. It teaches you to be more aware and helps you accept your emotions.

Feedback from friends and family. Ask how they see you, what they appreciate about you and what they see as your flaws.

3- Experimentation and immersion in new things. By testing yourself in different situations, you will learn about your strengths and weaknesses.

4. learning about your family history. Understanding where you come from and what your roots are can explain a lot about your character.

5. A greater purpose in life. Pursuing it will help reveal your true aspirations and calling.

9. Strive for balance

Create your own work-life balance. Take vacations, pursue hobbies, and make time for yourself. Here are a few guidelines to help in your quest for balance.

1. Plan your schedule ahead of time, alternating work tasks with personal time.

2. Make time for recuperation: sleep, walks, meditation, reading books.

3. Learn to say “no” to work tasks when you are scheduled to take a break.

4. Delegate some responsibilities to coworkers and assistants to free up time.

5. Reduce your evening time by the phone and computer. Spend it better with family and friends.

6. Start a hobby that will bring you joy and help you switch gears.

7. Alternate mental work with physical activity to keep yourself energized.

8. Travel, meet new people and cultures – it will broaden your horizons.

9. Find your rhythm of life, in which there will be a place for everything that is important to you.

10. Be grateful

Appreciate what you have and be grateful for each day. This will help you stay positive and find joy in the small things. If it’s hard to be grateful so far, here are some tips to make it your habit.

1. Every morning, list to yourself five things you are grateful for. It could be health, family, clothes, food, weather, opportunities.

2. Keep a gratitude journal where you write down the positive moments of the day – even the smallest ones.

3. Thank people for their help and support. Feel free to express your gratitude in words.

4. Rejoice in the successes of friends and colleagues and tell them about it.

5. In difficult moments, remember the difficulties you have already overcome. This will help you move forward and believe in your strength.

6. Create a ritual of joint gratitude in the family over evening tea. Let everyone talk about a positive moment that marked the past day.