How to not get discouraged when things are really hard? 8 steps to persevere and keep going

psychoanalytical psychologist, CPT, coach

“Life is full of challenges and surprises. We often face difficulties that seem insurmountable. At such times, despair can draw us in with its grim hands and make us doubt ourselves and our abilities. However, do not panic! Let’s look at tools that can help us not only overcome difficulties, but also become more resilient, optimistic and confident.”

1. Accept your emotions and become aware of them

You may be experiencing anger, frustration, or sadness. These are natural reactions to difficult situations. Give yourself permission to experience them. We are all inherently anxious. Believe me, it will be worse if you “freeze” your feelings and don’t live them out.

Acknowledging your emotions will help you understand yourself better and find ways to cope. Explore and learn to control your feelings. Remember that they are temporary and can distort your perception of the situation.

Practice meditation, breathing exercises, or other techniques to relieve stress and restore emotional balance.

2. Set small goals

When everything around you seems too difficult, focus on small tasks that you can accomplish. This will help you feel successful and give you the energy to realize your next goal. Sometimes our high expectations can be a source of frustration and discouragement. Try to be more realistic about your goals. Give yourself enough time and don’t judge harshly.

3- Seek support from loved ones

Share with your family and friends what you are facing or seek help from professional counselors. Remember that people are ready to help and support you in difficult moments. Sometimes it is enough just to speak out and hear words of support to make a real miracle happen. Do not be afraid to ask for help or advice. This is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of caring for yourself.

4. rest and relax

When we are under constant stress, our effectiveness decreases and we feel more vulnerable. Take time to rest and relax. Meditation, walking outdoors, or reading a book can help take your mind off your problems and rejuvenate you.

5. Focus on things that are up to you

We can’t always control situations or other people’s behavior, but we are always able to work with our reactions to them. Instead of wasting energy on things that are beyond your control, focus on what you can change and improve in your life.

6. Don’t dwell on the past or the future

Life happens in the here and now, so try not to dwell on past failures or worry about what might happen in the future. Focus on the present moment and what you can do right now. Try to see your values and accomplishments despite the challenges. Valuing personal strengths will help you maintain confidence and overcome discouragement.

7. Make time for what makes you happy

This can be any hobby, sports training or creative activity. Immersing yourself in such activities will help you disconnect from problems and worries, as well as boost your mood and self-esteem. Feel free to go for a walk, go to the gym or pottery studio.

8. Look at challenges as opportunities for growth

We invariably encounter obstacles to our goals, but through them we grow and become stronger. See difficulties as a chance for personal growth and try to learn from them.

Don’t despair when things get difficult. It is a temporary condition that you can overcome. Even small actions towards solving the problem can bring significant results. Remember that each step brings you closer to achieving your goal. Use these tips, keep a positive mindset and believe in your strength.