5 things that affect self-confidence. Everyone has them

Every time you look at a confident person, you can’t help but think and admire: “He does everything so well, he succeeds! That’s why he believes in himself”. In fact, self-confident people think correctly and try not to miss negative emotions that affect self-esteem.

Psychotherapist

There are five main things that kill self-esteem.

Comparing yourself to others

Constantly comparing yourself to others negatively affects self-esteem. The eternal chase, trying to be better than others will lead to depression and burnout.

Don’t look at others, instead compare your past self to your present self. Only by being equal to yourself, evaluating your mistakes and successes, you can achieve self-confidence and achieve the intended results.

Fear

Fear is a natural emotion, and it is perfectly normal to be afraid of some things.

However, fear of failure or other people’s opinions is not worth your worries. More often than not, it leads to procrastination and an inability to fulfill dreams in the future. Don’t avoid your decisions, don’t put things off. Self-confidence is first and foremost confidence in your actions.

Planning

Understanding what kind of life you want and what it takes to get there is an important trait of confidence. The better idea you have of what you need to do in the near future, the more confidence you have.

Support

The support of loved ones plays a huge role in building confidence. Words of approval from family and people you respect always help you feel better and cope with challenges.

Appearance

In the modern world, everyone wants to be similar to each other (copy the appearance, style of dress, correct faces). But we should not forget that confidence comes from within.

You must first of all love your unique style and your individuality.

How to become more confident in yourself

psychologist, candidate of psychological sciences

Why does a person feel insecure? Because it seems to him that he is not good enough, not loved enough, not smart enough, strong enough, developed, etc. So people start looking for an opportunity to show and prove their fullness. And then, as they believe, happiness will come.

But along with the removal of a luxurious dress or suit comes disappointment, and the person again becomes “insufficient”. We kill our own self-confidence by believing we are wrong. How to change this?

Create your own scale of evaluation of your appearance, personal characteristics and mental qualities. Love and attention from loved ones is wonderful, but only if you are not imposed a vision of how you should live your life and what you should wear.

Everyone comes into this world with their own characteristics and a certain set of traits and qualities. That is what is most beautiful about you. Try to experience it. Everything we are given in our “original settings” is necessary for our development and growth tasks.

If you take a closer look at yourself (or, more precisely, at the things in yourself that you don’t particularly like and deprive you of confidence), you will notice that this is what can bring you real results and confidence.

Realizing that you are original, unique and there is no other person like you will give you confidence and boost your self-esteem. Remember, you have one life, which should not be spent on doubts and empty worries.