4 things you need to let go of right now to be happy

We all strive for happiness and understand it very individually. There is nothing more difficult than defining what happiness is. For some it is a short-term but very intense state of bliss, for others it is a stable sense of well-being. But there are things that get in the way of many of us being happy.

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Before you decide to give something up, you should answer yourself the question – what is happiness? Here’s what you need to know about it.

Unloved work

In the first point in many motivational publicks you will see “quit your unloved job!” But wait, what are you going to live on? I’m not in favor of drastic and drastic solutions. Even an unloved job can cover some of the needs. Money, security, etc. So before quitting it, I suggest exploring what’s wrong with it. It may well be enough to talk to your boss about a promotion, and the job will become less unloved.

When choosing a job, think about what is important to you in it. It can be money, a good team, proximity to the office, interest, continuation of your hobby, cool experience – anything. Before choosing a new place, it is important to clearly understand what you want from it, and then there will be a plan of action.

The situation is quite different if you notice a deterioration in your health due to work. What to pay attention to, read in the article at the link.

Father’s house

It is not at all desirable to say “leave your parents”. No, by no means do not abandon. But to separate from them still need to. Cohabitation with parents in adulthood is fraught with loss of self. Parental figures will overshadow some of your needs and desires. And you will not even notice it.

To become a whole and independent person who can make decisions, rely on yourself, plan your life and build relationships with others, you need to separate from your parents. In short, the key to a happy relationship with your father and mother is to live with them separately.

Old friends or acquaintances

As sad as it may be, sometimes it is useful to part with them as well. Often we choose our friends while still at school age. Over time, relationships change. And at some point you may find yourself spending time with people you no longer have anything in common with.

You can’t expect to benefit from such relationships. They only take up time, you don’t get what you want out of them. Yes, you may have had a lot in common before, but life flows and changes, and so do people. Listen to yourself, maybe you need to change your social circle to feel happy?

Boyfriend or girlfriend

There’s a reason I put this paragraph at the end. The topic is vast and complex, but I’ll try to keep it brief. As I wrote above, you are changing. Whether you want to or not. And what was important and necessary yesterday may lose importance today.

It’s the same in life with lovers. When dating, you leaned on what was important to you at that point in your life. (If, of course, you did so consciously). But things may have changed over time. You used to need care, and now you need passion. You used to need support, and now you need to be scolded once in a while and thus motivated.

In some cases it is still possible to keep the relationship. In this can help counseling psychologist. Read more about how to prepare for a conversation with a specialist at the link below.

It is good if people in a relationship change and flexibly adjust to each other’s needs. But in practice this is difficult to do due to a thousand different reasons. That’s why sometimes you need to break up to feel happy.

In general, happiness should be seen as a process rather than an outcome. The process of getting satisfaction from life at every stage.