How to get attention. 8 universal ways for every occasion

There is no one-size-fits-all recipe for attracting attention. Because we are all different: we may have different gender, age, physique, cultural and other characteristics; different style psychotypes that determine our clothing preferences, and different personality strategies that help us make choices.

Attention may be required in different situations: when speaking at an economic forum, for example, we need one type of attention, while on a date we need a completely different type of attention.

image consultant, stylist-coach, resident of the International Community of Stylists, jewelry stylist.

The first thing that always attracts attention is self-confidence. Interest in self-confident people is sewn into our subconscious, because it is strength, superiority, ability to take care of yourself, it is some unique resources that others do not have. What can provide it and give an additional portion of positive attention?

A successful image

It has three important components:

• harmony (fits well, adorns, meets the requirements of the wearer of the outfit);
• appropriateness (fits the situation, understandable to others);
• relevance (the image should not be hopelessly outdated).

Observing these three rules, you can not only draw attention to yourself, but also immediately make the right impression.

Personal style

In relation to a successful image, this is the next step. In addition to harmony, appropriateness and relevance, personal style includes the stigmatization of the image or a separate element of it, which others associate with a certain person.

It can be an accessory without which it is difficult to imagine a particular person (M. Boyarsky and his hat, S. Dali’s mustache or M. Albright’s brooches) or a concept (D. Depp, S. Jobs, M. Thatcher, etc.). It’s what makes it clear to those around you: “He’s special” (or she).

If you have your own style, you’ll never wonder, “How do I draw attention to myself?”

This trick is used by many stars, sticking to a uniform that often forms the media image of a popular person. Read more about it at the link.

Color

The most powerful and ancient trigger that affects the conscious and unconscious is color. He was before the verbal interaction of ancient people, is relevant now. Seeing a color, a person reacts instantly. You have not yet had time to think, but your brain has already decided everything for you: pleasant, unpleasant, dangerous or not, contact with this “colored object” or not worth it.

But color must be used correctly within the framework of creating a successful image. Tones that help in some areas of life, can play a bad joke in others: you can not speak at the federal economic forum and go on a date in the same.

Accents

Accent can be anything: a spot of color, and a remarkable accessory with an unusual texture or shape. The main thing is to arrange these accents correctly. There should not be too many of them. They should be in those places (or near them) to which you want to attract attention.

Creativity

Even in the “realm of a rigid dress code” there is room for creativity. Let’s imagine that everyone around you is dressed in blue, and eye-catching accents are allowed only outside the workplace. To stand out in this “office sea”, buy a suit not just blue, but a complex blue color. Complex colors always draw attention to themselves and look more expensive against the background of simple tones.

psychologist, lecturer at the Psychology Department of Synergy University, Gestalt therapist, Gestalt Co.

The first impression of a person is formed in a matter of seconds. At this moment it is possible to attract the necessary attention. It depends on three factors.

Speech

• Voice. Here the timbre, and intonation, and speed of pronunciation are important. Speak in a firm, calm and even voice. A little louder than usual. But too loud speech can frighten the listener or cause aggression towards the “irritant”.
• Words. It is necessary to pronounce clearly, embossed. The speed of pronunciation – low – is important both for the interlocutor(s) and for the speaker. For the latter, a low speed of speech gives an opportunity to “take a breath”, to cope with excitement, to gather one’s thoughts.
• Suggestions. It is better to formulate short. Your words, as well as your speech in general, should be as clear as possible.

• Breathing. Physical and psychological state is determined by breathing. Smooth breathing – a calm state. Increased, intermittent in conjunction with attempts to normalize it is read as excitement or anxiety.
• Intonation. Intonation at the end of the sentence should go up, not down, as we were taught. Even in a narrative sentence. This helps to “pique” the interest of the audience who are waiting for the continuation, and for that they will have to ask questions. That is, they will contribute to the development of the conversation. We value what we put our efforts into.

Mood

People around us are attracted to people with a positive attitude. Maintaining it is difficult, on the one hand. After all, our mood depends on many factors, and not always happy. On the other hand, when we say a phrase with a positive attitude, we can support ourselves.

Compliment

It is not about the banal “You look good”.

Compliment is an opinion about a person, which he is pleasant and unexpected to hear, without flattery.

The essence: to note a quality of character, a feature of activity or behavior. You should not talk about the peculiarity of appearance. Firstly, you will not surprise anyone with this, and, secondly, you may get into a misunderstanding.

For example, during the first five minutes of the conversation the interlocutor listened to you, asked questions, but he was “yanked” with some business. And he without prejudice to the conversation with you coped with this volume. Compliment him/her with a verb in the sentence: “I noticed that you can handle so much at once without compromising them. I am impressed by your efficiency/coordination/multitasking”.

If the person you are talking to thinks for a long time before answering your questions, you can give the following compliment: “I’ve noticed that you are very thorough in your approach to solving questions”.

It is very important to emphasize that it was you who noted these positive features of the interlocutor, and not using faceless banal characteristics. In addition, a compliment emphasizes the individuality of the interlocutor. It is as if we say to him: “I see you, I distinguish you from others”. It is very important for each person to be “seen”, it is important to be noticed. And then you will not go unnoticed.

You can’t forget about yourself either. There’s nothing wrong with encouraging yourself without a good reason. Here are seven reasons to praise yourself more often.