Why do some people live as they please while others have to constantly adapt?

psychoanalytical psychologist, CPT, coach

“A person’s life is a complex mosaic puzzle made up of many factors and circumstances that shape their path. However, it can often be seen that some people seem to “go with the flow”. They live their lives as they please, while others feel the constant need to adapt to their environment and circumstances. Why does this happen? Let’s look at the main factors.”

The first and perhaps most important factor is a person’s internal psychology. Our personal beliefs, values and level of self-esteem can strongly influence how we perceive and interact with the world.

People who have strong confidence in themselves and their values often tend to live their lives the way they like, regardless of their circumstances. It is also important to consider personal preferences and interests. A person who pays attention to his passions and hobbies is used to building a life around them. This can give the impression that he or she is living “as he or she likes” because he or she is doing what brings him or her real satisfaction.

Our personality characteristics play a big role in this issue. For example, people with high levels of self-efficacy and self-confidence are likely to live the way they like because they believe in their abilities and don’t question decisions. Those with lower levels of self-efficacy and self-confidence may experience more difficulties.

On the other side we have external circumstances that affect the way we lead our lives. These can include social environment, economic status, education, professional career and many other aspects.

The next factor is the social environment. Family, friends, and the society we live in have a strong influence on our decisions and behavior. People whose environment values individual aspirations and freedom of choice are often more free in how they live their lives. Conversely, in societies that value tradition and social expectations, people may feel inclined to conform.

Financial stability and choice also play an important role. People with limited resources are forced to adapt in order to survive and provide for their families. While better-off people have more freedom to choose their lifestyle.

Education and occupation are two other important factors. They can determine the degree of freedom and the ability to live as one wishes. For example, some professions offer more independence and flexibility than others. We also realize that people who care for others (e.g., their parents) may have to adapt to meet the needs of their loved ones.

More often than not, the reality is a combination of internal and external factors. People can find ways to adapt to circumstances while maintaining their values and interests. This requires a balance between adaptation and self-expression.

Ultimately, the question of why some people live as they like while others are forced to adapt is complex and multifaceted. It depends on many factors, both internal and external, and can change during a person’s life.

I would like to point out that human beings are unique and have their own reasons for living the way they do. Some people may be forced to adapt because of external circumstances such as economic or social conditions that may limit their options. Others are limited by personal problems such as depression or anxiety. These may prevent them from making decisions and acting on their desires.

Each of us has our own path. There is no one right way to live your life. Don’t look to others. Don’t look to others for an example. Perhaps what is limiting you now is a personal point of growth.