Why the need for “self-dating”? This trend is not so new

Why the need for “self-dating”? This trend isn’t so new

Spending time alone is just as important as socializing with people.

How often are you alone with yourself? Do you ask: “What do I want right now”? We’re used to taking time to exercise, to take care of our physical health, to work on ourselves. That’s right, any relationship is work, and that includes the relationship with yourself. For such a “date” it is not necessary to wait for an invitation from a partner, you can take to it yourself.

psychológ

It is very important to let yourself do whatever you want, it is a lot of energy and strength.

Nadežda: From childhood we were taught many things, for example, to take care of others, to pay attention to others. And they argue that other behavior is selfish. Because of this, people grow up to deny themselves, and then problems arise. Many do not know how to distribute their strength: as soon as they appear, they are immediately spent on something else. This can lead to the feeling that something is constantly missing, as if you yourself own nothing – neither your resources nor your time.

To avoid breakdowns and emotional overreactions, you need to take time for yourself on a regular basis and not devalue your desires. If you suddenly think of something unusual or even childish, in your opinion – you want to buy funny pajamas or order unhealthy food – do it!

Nadežda: It is very important to indulge your “wants” sometimes. After all, a lot of people’s desires were devalued in childhood. I mean, do you want a doll? Or maybe a pencil case for school after all? Or something useful? It’s hard to change when you’re used to going along with others. But it’s necessary. Learn to listen and realize your even the most naive desires.

How to build a relationship with yourself?

• Develop the habit of getting pleasure.
• Explore your desires, and most importantly – never devalue them. If you want to wrap yourself in a sweater and not go anywhere on a Friday night, allow yourself to do so.
• It is necessary to keep the balance of energy that you receive and give. Having done something useful for society, save some energy for your “wants”.
• Stop thinking in stereotypes that prevent you from visiting a movie theater alone or buying flowers as a gift to yourself.

• Cook a gourmet dinner or take yourself to a restaurant.
• Take time for a hobby. Painting, playing the drums, or dancing is a good time to remember what activities have been put on hold.
• Have a spa day. Get a massage or light some scented candles and apply a mask at home.

• Take a walk around town. New Year’s Eve is approaching and the streets are already festooned with holiday decorations. Grab a cup of non-alcoholic mulled wine and take a walking tour of the center.
• Go to a theater, movie or museum. What could be better than to be spiritually enriched in the company of your favorite person?