Why modern children are so aggressive. A psychologist gave 4 reasons

Parents ring all the bells and take their children to psychologists, but this is not always the solution. Work with children can be more restorative in nature. After all, often the main problem that needs to be solved is a parental one. And even if an excellent specialist brings the child to a healthy background, when they return to the environment of “untreated” parents, the situation may repeat itself or, rather, even worsen.

Transformational psychologist, graduated from the Institute of Innovative Psychotechnologies

Talks about the reasons that can become the basis for child aggressiveness.

Physical punishment

If in the family the use of force is the norm, then, most likely, the child more than once said to himself such words: “Grow up – I will kill!”. The parent sacredly believes that the child during physical punishment thinks how wrong he is.

However, more often than not, the child is thinking about hatred and revenge. This nurtures internal aggression, because a little person cannot adequately respond to his parent, and outside the home, he is sure to find someone to whom it applies.

Parents have no time

The child is left to himself. The need for emotional stroking is not satisfied. When the child does not get enough attention, he begins to get it in any way he can. There are no good and bad options here: the harsher the event, the more attention to the child.

Therefore, it is often surprising that a child from a seemingly prosperous family has done something unthinkable. And he just went for stroking.

The information age

Children’s psyche can not cope with a large amount of information, which falls today from all sides. Very few children nowadays just walk outside, socialize, play team games and self-organize.

The main pastime is spent in gadgets, phones, at the computer, from which the psyche is in constant tension.

Aggression is one of the ways to release the tension outward.

Then, after several successful reinforcements, this behavior gradually becomes a habitual way of preservation or survival.

Vivid patterns of behavior

Children, especially during adolescence, begin to look for authority figures outside the family if upbringing has not been emphasized to the contrary. If we turn to modern folklore, we see that aggression occupies one of the leading positions in modern movies, anime, literature, and social networks. To be aggressive in specific social circles, communities, clubs is now even fashionable.