“My goal is 100 kilograms.” Why do people fatten themselves and their partners to enormous sizes?

They say that there is no arguing about tastes. And especially strongly reinforces these words feederism – the desire to enlarge yourself or your partner to immense size. The expression “there is no such thing as a lot of good people” takes on a different meaning, which is clear only to the feeder and the feeder himself – the one who feeds and is fed. We talked to some of them and asked a psychologist’s opinion on this matter.

consulting psychologist

Feederism is a co-dependent partner relationship where there is a “dominant-aggressor” and a “victim”.

What is fiderism?

Fiderism is a craving for feeding and weight gain, also a sexual fetish. The trend originated in the USA and got its name from the English word feed – “to feed”. Feeder (“feeder”) is a person who feeds another. And fidi (“feeder”) is the one who is fed by the feeder. The former are most often men, but there are also some women. Not much has been written on the subject of feederism – feeders and feedies tell about their hobby themselves. They have websites where they get acquainted, chronicle their weight gain and share their experiences – mostly anonymously. It’s also where some reveal the reasons for their cravings.

Some find excess weight attractive, others get fat in the name of love, to please the other half. Still others simply enjoy eating and being full. Feederism is practiced both within relationships and alone. The latter are called gainers (from the English word gain – “to gain”) – they gain weight on their own and dream of growing to immense size.

However, these motives are not limited to this. There are those who seek to fatten their partner to such a state that he could not move independently. A striking example of this is an American couple Mike and Jane. Before meeting her husband, the girl weighed less than 90 kg, but soon he fattened her up to 400 kg. He offered the girl a huge amount of fast food, threatening – if you do not eat, I will leave. For some time the victim obeyed, but eventually came to her senses and broke off the unhealthy relationship.

This begs the question: why do some people consciously gain weight if it can harm their health? Obesity leads to serious consequences, interferes with normal mobility and generally makes life very difficult. There is no unambiguous answer to this question. But it must be said that keeping weight at the mark of 100 kg and more is not as easy as it may seem. There are many who stop at a large figure in favor of health. With one of them we managed to talk to. Here’s what the fidi told about his hobby.

Anonymous: “I used to weigh 68 kg, now I weigh 80 kg. My goal is 100 kg, after that, most likely, I will stop. I am not looking for a feeder, I do it just out of interest. I started gaining weight since the beginning of November last year, but my relatives don’t notice it. I don’t belong to any community, just a few internet friends.

It all started when I met a Russian girl and she encouraged me to start gaining weight. Many gainers gain a lot, but at some point they stop, being health-conscious – no matter how ridiculous it sounds. And just enjoy eating. Personally, this process brings me positive emotions. Some people get fat not for the sake of a dream, but for themselves, they just like it that way.