Why we fight ourselves and what it can lead to

People have to overcome themselves in different situations every day. Sometimes, without realizing it, people create difficulties that they have to struggle with later. For example, if you drink too much with friends at a party, the next day it is very difficult to get in shape, and if you stay up in the evening on the phone, in the morning there is a high probability to oversleep and blame yourself for it.

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Winners always get honor and glory, plushies and awards. There is something to be proud of: on this ground is a good rise in self-esteem, self-value, self-confidence and self-confidence grows. However, victory over oneself is an illusion.

In the human mind does not always fit the idea that it is not necessary to punish themselves for their own mistakes and imperfections. Grieving from failures or mistakes, accepting one’s own not-so-great character trait is enough “punishment” and there is no need to add more sanctions to them.

If you break it down in more detail and take a closer look, it becomes clear that fighting yourself is a self-destructive program – and there is no winner because the forces are equal. When you supposedly defeat yourself, exactly at that moment you lose to yourself. Defeat goes into the shadows of the human psyche as something worthless. With each new victory there is a replenishment of the shadow, which matures and at the critical moment “tears” the person.

There are three paths one can follow after discovering another imperfection in oneself:

• aggressive struggle with oneself;
• aggressive denial of imperfection;
• recognizing the imperfection and working on oneself.

Everything falls into place if we recognize that bad habits, unbearable character, negative reactions of a person are some life tools, or rather, ways of adaptation, which were developed once, so that the psyche could survive. A kind of crutches.

And it makes no sense to fight with crutches, it is necessary to eliminate the cause that requires the presence of these crutches. That is, if a person drinks or smokes, it is necessary to identify the cause, what exactly he compensates for it, to cure the deficit and then to give up the addiction, if it does not come to naught.

Fighting with oneself increases the splitting of the psyche into parts: “bad” and “good.” And only the elimination of the true cause of the so-called “vice”, which wants to eradicate, gives the development of a harmonious whole personality.