Men love with their eyes. Is it true and what really attracts them to women?

The saying that men love with their eyes and women love with their ears is well known. Nevertheless, it causes a lot of controversy and discussion among representatives of both sexes. Girls are outraged by the fact that external data are put above internal qualities. And what about fine mental organization, reading and sense of humor? Men also do not really like to be deprived of deep perception and the ability to appreciate something more ….

So how are things really going? Let’s turn to research and expert opinions.

What do neurophysiologists say?

A few decades ago, California scientists conducted a study that confirmed a hackneyed myth. They proved that for men, women’s attractive appearance is strategically important.

If we believe the scientists’ conclusions, hormones are responsible for everything. I’m talking about testosterone and cortisol. Without them, a man can not enjoy life to the fullest, and their production occurs precisely at the sight of a beautiful woman. That’s what the researchers concluded. Testosterone is responsible for well-being, health and tone. Cortisol stabilizes the nervous system, smooths the emotional background.

The conclusions of California scientists liked the public, especially men. It’s nice to know that your passion for the aesthetics of female forms is not just just justified, but necessary! Recently, however, the results of this study have been heavily criticized, pointing out that the scientific evidence does not reflect the full diversity of sexuality.

What do psychologists say?

Here, experts also agree that men have an instinctive need to evaluate partners visually. The analysis of attractiveness is “sewn” in the genes and is transmitted from generation to generation. That is, behind the desire to enjoy female beauty is a basic need – in the continuation of the species.

We asked psychologist Darya Yausheva to tell us more about it .

Clinical psychologist (IP&CP), counseling psychologist

There is indeed a study that confirms that men are visualizers to a greater extent, while women are audials. This is stated in a scientific publication by Kim Wallen and Heather Rapp. They noted that the amygdala plays a central role in male sexual behavior. It is responsible for the formation of emotions and motivation.

The scientists based their conclusions on studies conducted using MRI scans. The data showed that when viewing pictures, men have a higher level of arousal than girls.

The need to enjoy female beauty can also be explained in terms of evolutionary biology. Natural selection has influenced the fact that sexual behavior differs between the sexes. A male recognizes and responds to a woman more quickly with his visual system. This increases the likelihood of mating, which increases the chances of gene transfer.

Scientists from the University of Washington came to a similar conclusion. Their study showed that men react to a moving object faster than women.

Based on all the above data, we can conclude that the folk wisdom about men’s eyes and women’s ears is scientifically valid. But there are some pitfalls here. The fact that psychologists warn – a clear distribution on visual and auditory is not. In addition, there is also a third type of perception – kinesthetics.

We asked psychologist Stanislav Sambursky to tell us more about it.

business and clinical psychologist

One of the most interesting studies on the visual type of perception was written back in 1977 by William Epstein. Then the theory gained momentum and began to be developed in the format of a neurophysiological approach. Further studies have established that all people belong to one of three types. These are audials, kinesthetes and visuals.

According to statistics, about the same number of men like touching or pleasant words, but visuals among them almost half – 45%.

For people with this type of perception, the picture is important. Yes, they will favorably accept gentle chirping in the ear and tactile contact, but the main thing is that the girl (as the object of adoration) was beautiful and well-built. It is important to the visual in general to be surrounded by beauty.

However, there is an important point here. There are no “pure” kinesthetic, visual and auditory. The predominant type of perception dominates in 80% of cases, but 20% is left to conditions that can change everything: sound background, alcohol, lack of a permanent partner.

What do men look at?

Stanislav Sambursky’s opinion:

A woman must bear offspring, and this requires good health, the indicator of which is certain external data: body, skin condition, etc. It is this information that men visually read. Overweight, dull hair or other imperfections signal health problems, which automatically scares males away. They read – the object is not suitable for the continuation of the species.

This is where men’s ongoing struggle for beautiful women begins. This is the pursuit of the possibility of guaranteed continuation of the species.

Signs of female attractiveness

What visual beacons are strategic for men? A list of such parameters highlighted in her study on falling in love Dr. Joan Kellerman. For this purpose, she surveyed 200 people.

The top important external indicators included:

• leg length;
• lumbar curve – the distance between the back and buttocks (the angle should be 45.5°);
• bright lips;
• hair color.

By the way, it turned out that only 20% of men pay attention to redheaded women. That is, only one in five men will be smitten with this shade of hair.

So, we have two pieces of news, and both are good. Firstly, it’s impossible to claim that men are 100% visualizers. So everyone involved in the argument can rest easy. The importance of a rich inner world and depth perception has not been canceled. Men are not so limited. Not everyone and not always fall only on looks. Women are not limited either – they do not have to fit themselves to templates and standards.

Secondly, things change. Ideals of beauty are transformed under the influence of global processes – the development of culture, art and at the level of perception of an individual person. What conclusion can we draw here? Similar to the first one. There is no need to adjust yourself to the templates.

Naturalness and acceptance are the key to health. Psychosomatic experts trumpet this. And, it seems, we have a third piece of good news… If beauty is an indicator of health, then the surest way to it is through unconditional love for yourself.