Who is a self-sufficient person and how to become one? Signs and psychologist’s advice

Clinical psychologist, metapsychologist, hypnotherapist

“Self-sufficiency is a state of inner comfort and contentment, when one feels complete and sufficient for existence. It is what helps us to express ourselves in the world, learn and become stronger. Sometimes under the pressure of different life circumstances a person loses self-sufficiency. How to restore it?”

What is self-sufficiency?

In simple words, a self-sufficient person is one who is satisfied and pleased with himself. He does not need extraneous things to feel happy. There is no dependence on other people. He has adequate self-esteem. It is an independent person.

You are self-sufficient if you are able to enjoy time alone. You always have activities that are interesting. The realization that there is nothing wrong with you is present. This is a deep inner feeling that every person is born with, ready to open up to the world, learn and become independent. Why does he sometimes lose it?

What destroys self-sufficiency?

Often trust in the world and the feeling of self-sufficiency can be broken due to various life circumstances. One of them is the lack of love and emotional warmth in childhood. A child whose parents did not show affection properly and were cold can automatically form the belief that there is something wrong with him. He begins to think that he cannot be loved for who he is. He feels like he is literally “not enough.”

This can lead to personal strategizing: “How do I change myself? What do I need to do in order for me to be enough? What do my actions need to be in order for me to be cared for, accepted, loved and paid attention to?”.

Restoring self-sufficiency

What can a psychologist do to help?

When a person does not have a sense of self-sufficiency, the natural settings are disturbed. It is possible to restore them and change their thinking through psychotherapy. The task of specialists in the field of psychology is to help people return to a state where they feel that there is nothing wrong with them. They need to be helped to accept themselves as they are and realize that they are already good.

Psychologists guide people’s perspectives on their accomplishments and uniqueness. Working with a therapist helps a person realize and love themselves as they are – with weaknesses and strengths, successes and mistakes.

It is important to feel that nothing needs to be added or changed in order to be loved. It’s about accepting yourself. However, it’s important to realize that it’s not about stopping where you are. Acceptance is an opportunity for further development and growth, but without the feeling of deficiency, but from a position of confidence and self-love.

Self-knowledge is the key to self-sufficiency

Self-sufficiency can be achieved through spiritual growth and self-knowledge. When a person is alone with himself, he stops living automatically and begins to consciously monitor his thoughts and values, as well as “dig” deep into himself. This can be achieved independently by making interesting plans for life and formulating one’s next steps.

A person begins to learn about the world, appreciate and love the time spent alone with himself. He realizes that he is something more, he has ties with his ancestors, homeland, planet. Every person’s spiritual growth is different, but at some point everyone begins to realize that it is enough to be who they are. There comes the realization that he is already in his place and that this is where his happiness lies.

Self-acceptance and treatment of others

Self-sufficiency does not negate the value of connecting with others. On the contrary, it helps you create healthy relationships. When you begin to build them by feeling confident, you can give others your true self rather than trying to fill an internal deficit.

The most important thing to realize is that the quality of relationships is determined by mutual respect, trust, support and love. If you just want to use them to fill inner voids, you will never feel harmony. Such relationships will not bring happiness and satisfaction.

Female self-sufficiency

What do we mean when we say “self-sufficient woman”? We are talking about one who knows exactly what she wants and is comfortable in her own company. She builds a life based on personal moral values and beliefs. This is an independent person who is not afraid to be herself and is proud of her individuality.

A self-sufficient woman realizes that the most important support and love comes from herself, and does not look for ways to satisfy her needs through alcohol or excessive shopping. She realizes how to maintain her positive mood and doesn’t try to fill emotional voids through other people.

Are female and male self-sufficiency similar?

In essence, female self-sufficiency is no different. There is nothing here that is not peculiar to a man. Each person self-sufficiency gives a sense of integrity and security, a sense of inner support and self-confidence.

The one who has inner strength, will be good regardless of external conditions. All thanks to the developed skill of self-support and contact with oneself.

It is very important to be able to accept, understand and feel sufficient, to feel one’s place in this world, to be directed and not lost. Self-sufficient people know that there is nothing wrong with them. They realize – everyone has room to develop and grow, but appreciate and love themselves as they are at the moment.

Self-sufficiency is not just a state, it is a path to a deep understanding and love of self. And anyone who has stepped on this road is already taking a big step towards becoming more confident. It is important to realize your potential, improve it and always strive for growth.